So this morning I woke up, and the first thing out of Mom's mouth was, "I sent you and Dad an email that I want you to read. What I said in it HAS to be done TODAY."
Thanks. Yeah. I didn't have anything planned today, like DOING ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AND CALLING THIS MY FRIGGIN' DAY OFF!!!
My work schedule has been uber hectic and my schedule with the web development crap has been worse. I haven't been able to accomplish anything in the last 2 weeks because nobody knows how to communicate. I had today charted out as the day I relax, and I get told that I have to clean out the friggin' shed that is filled with Mom's crap.
First thing I decided was that a) anything she hasn't used in over 2 years, and b) anything that looks like garbage to me, is going to be thrown in the trash.
The second thing I decided was that I would pull everything out of the shed, sort it, and take care of the trash, and she and Dad could put things back in there. I left 2 piles in front of the shed: one pile of scrap metal to be taken to the recycler, and one pile of things that need to go back in the shed.
Now that I've done my part, I am trying to sit here and do nothing, but I keep hearing, "Tiiiim... I need you to insert action here for me." Luckily, a friend called and has given me an excuse to get out of the house and take my bass guitar with me.
Luckily now I'm working, all I am asked to do is put the hoover around and help mum with the shopping.
- Posted by Matt (Guest) on July 3, 2005 at 02:21:47PM
I work 10 hours a day 5 days a week, 6 hours one day a week, and I put in AT LEAST 6 hours every night here at home with my own business. Even still, I'm fully expected to help out with the OUTRAGEOUS expectations around the house, along with contributing nearly 30% of my income to help with the bills that I benefit from.
- Posted by tim (Guest) on July 3, 2005 at 02:30:54PM
Tis true, it was like that when I lived at home. Vacuum the whole house, scrub the bathroom from top to bottom, make the kitchen sparkle and take care of every dish that mom used to prepare the meal, which is every dish the in the house, clean the cat box, take out the slop, put mom's socks on her feet, make her a "jar of ice water", get mom the "clicker", figure out for mom or dad why the downstairs computer has froze, then get yelled at because you are lazy and have an attitude problem because you let out a sigh when mom added yet another thing to your already hectic work load. Thank you very much for ruining my day, Mrs. Garrison! Yep, that's what it was like in that house, and now Tim has the load that I took care of. Oh yeah, I forgot to mention, if mom drives you to any one spot in town, you have to fill up the entire tank with gas, then fork over 10% of your paycheck, then pay all the bills that mom feels is your obligation. Oh, did I mention, that there is no food in the house either? Yeah, that is the soul responsibility of the offspring as well. I think that almost covers it. I am sure there is more to the list, but I dont wish to dive into my memories and try to extract them and put them up here for you to read. So there.
- Posted by Jennz0rz (Guest) on July 3, 2005 at 06:53:35PM
That's pretty much how it is. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents with all my heart, but the skewed logic in Mom's head just baffles me.
- Posted by tim (Guest) on July 3, 2005 at 09:52:48PM
I contribute over 30% and don't feel too hard done by considering it leaves me with almost 70% to do what I want. When you think that your parents looked after you for the first 16 years or so of your life at their own expense, it is probably not worth complaining till you are 32 and have given them 16 years back bearing in mind in them 16 years back you never had to change their shitty nappy (diaper) or wake up at 5am with teething problems. Sure from what you say your mum is actually taking the piss with her expectations but parents are like that. I would devise a rota almost where stuff is divided out. No one ever complains when they realise the next person is working just as hard as they are.
- Posted by Jason (Guest) on July 4, 2005 at 10:39:40AM
It is their job as parents to do these things and show the child how to do them. It is not the child's job to do it all as a stupid payback. There is no payback in life when it comes to who payed for your upbringing. As a parent, it is your sole responsibility to care for your child and pay for all bills and what have you. When that child grows up, it will become their job to tend and care for their own child; not grow up and serve their parents each and every moment like a slave. I hate it when people say it is only fair that their children give back to them what they gave to their child. That is a huge load of BS.
- Posted by Jennz0rz (Guest) on July 4, 2005 at 01:00:38PM
I agree with the sister unit.
See, I'm of the opinion that if you're not willing to make sacrifices for you kids, and raise them, and provide for them, you don't need to be having kids in the first place.
My mom has thrown it in my face before that she's had to "do without" because of me. My response has always been, "That's your problem then, not mine. I didn't ask to be born."
It seems a bit cold and selfish of me to say that, but it's a fact. It was her responsibility the day she decided to have a child to provide for that child and to "do without" so that the child could "do with".
Now that I'm old enough, I do things for my parents to show my appreciation, but I don't do things to pay them back for all they've done for me. There's quite a bit of difference there.
- Posted by tim (Guest) on July 4, 2005 at 01:36:03PM
Unfortunately, I don't think anyone would understand until they actually met Mom. Chris thought I was whining about nothing and exaggerating until he met her.
- Posted by Queen of Sheba (Guest) on July 5, 2005 at 06:11:26PM