Perpetually Single?
Posted by tim in It wouldn't fit in any other category... on March 15, 2008

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People have always said that if I weren't meant to be single, I would already have a partner. Others have said that I just need to be patient and wait it out. I am beginning to think that I may be at fault for my singleness. How, I just don't know, but I am getting very tired of it.

I went to Wal-Mart today, and it just made me sick seeing all the happy couples. Not sick in the sense that I wanted to vomit, but sick in the sense that I just wasn't happy. I guess it could be identified as envy or jealousy.

I just don't like this "hole" in my life though. I have plenty of good friends, and I wouldn't trade them for the world. They just don't always fit where they're needed though. I'm sure they would all say that they'll gladly listen to anything I ever have to say when I vent, or that they'll be there if I needed to show my emotions. This just doesn't work 100% of the time though. What happens when they get married or start in a relationship of their own? I'm left right in the same place I am with a few of my friends.

As much as it seems otherwise, I am not a social person. I don't like talking to people I don't know, and I haven't the slightest clue on where to start a conversation. Furthermore, I'm not a fan of being in a large group setting. I would much rather just be in a small group of close friends, and take part in a conversation someone else started.

I guess I'm just stuck in a rut. BLAH.



I hope you don't mind if I add my $0.02, If you'd prefer not to have it please feel free to delete as appropriate.

I think, as far as friends go, it doesn't matter how good they are towards yourself, or how much you help each other out, finding a partner, or perhaps even a short term girlfriend, is nothing to do with your close social group, more to do with your ability to be on your own.

If it's problems you have meeting girls, perhaps you should change where it is you hang out? Maybe goto more bars, clubs etc...

It's not asthough you can write a manual on finding a girl, it really is something people work out on their own.

  • Posted by Sam (Guest) on March 17, 2008 at 04:34:39AM

Sam, I really appreciate the two copper pieces you gave here. I'm not sure if it's a regional thing or what, but there really aren't any respectable females in the bars and clubs here. Almost all of them are either fugly, or they are always so drunk that they can barely hold their own.

  • Posted by tim (Guest) on March 17, 2008 at 07:29:01AM

It's quite alright, can I then make the assumption that it's finding places to meet girls that you are struggling on? As apposed to actually meeting the girls?

  • Posted by Sam (Guest) on March 17, 2008 at 07:35:58AM

That's definitely a part of it, but making that first bit of conversation is difficult. I do bowl quite a bit, but it seems that most of the females at the lanes are either nasty or taken.

  • Posted by tim (Guest) on March 17, 2008 at 07:20:07PM

Maybe you could try something new? I don't mean go find a new hobby...I mean, go do something that you wouldn;t usually do...Look for people that are also out of their element...

The fact your both uneasy in a new environment tends to sway towards the idea of making each other comfortable?

It's hard for me to explain since It's something that I've always found relativley easy...But I'll give it my best!

  • Posted by Sam (Guest) on March 18, 2008 at 10:49:00AM

I have done that once, but it never amounted to anything, so I do see what you're getting at. It's just really hard with the schedule I'm on to get out and do different things. I'm just kinda forced to be in the rut I'm in. :-/

  • Posted by tim (Guest) on March 18, 2008 at 04:36:52PM

Perhaps try some social networking sites? You don't really need to make time for them, and you can get comfortable talking with people before meeting them?

  • Posted by Sam (Guest) on March 19, 2008 at 03:45:38AM

I have a Facebook account. I've tried contacting new people on there, but they always seem creeped out. shrug

  • Posted by tim (Guest) on March 19, 2008 at 07:34:44AM
  1. Make standard net trap
  2. switch bait for shoes
  3. wait
  4. !?!??!??!
  5. profit.
  • Posted by The Game (Guest) on March 19, 2008 at 02:40:45PM
  1. Collect underpants.
  2. ?
  3. Profit

Sorry, that was not really needed I know, but I thought it fitted in somewhat.

  • Posted by Sam (Guest) on March 20, 2008 at 03:22:10AM
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